Of course I'll say we have a Biblical version of love which sets some really high standards. Do many people fall into that standard now? Hmmm... I wonder...
We, as a culture, have even turned love into a unit of measurement and a type of qualification. I mean think about it, we say all the time, I love him/her as a friend, but not a boy/girl friend. Or we say on a scale of 1-10 what's your attraction level to them? Those two very simple statements are made all over the world on a daily basis. We have factors that make one person more "lovable" over another to the point of turning them into algorithms. One of the largest and most successful money makers out there today is match-making...electronic matchmaking even.
We have love languages, and value systems, we have love lives, and sex lives that can have absolutely nothing to do with the other. Used to, such thought processes weren't even a thing, much less individual diving boards into the dating pool. So, how does this work?
Does a person love less if they have been married a couple times verses a person who's only been married once? I mean if these two people were to meet and fall in love, would one person instantly have a higher love value over the other? How does that work? Or does it work at all? Would these two people even stand a chance?
Or if you have two people who have both a similar background love-wise, do they suddenly make a better match? And why do people look for those who they look for? Divorced vs widowed, number of marriages vs no record of past commitments? Why do we put higher value on different things?
So, really...what is love? I've heard people say, that love is finding someone who's faults you can live with. Yes, kind of stark, but at least it's realistic. I've heard the exact opposite from my own daughters who want love to be like a Disney movie. Yes, really. Talk to your own daughters, and possibly your sons, and you'll get the same answers. It's a little frightening. Especially in a society where divorce is rampant, and children are getting their notions about love and marriage from what they see not only from us, but TV. Makes me shiver...
As an author, I love writing about specific types of characters, and of course top it all off with a bow of true love waiting in the wings. I always write about strong females and dominant males, who somehow make each other a better version of themselves without compromising who they are. Is that possible in today's society? In today's world? I don't know, but maybe that's why it sells so well... because people want it but don't see it.
Like a unicorn..
I've asked a lot of questions this time around, without answering them...I'm looking for some answers myself, so please, be generous with your comments. I'd love to read them, respond to them, and maybe even follow up with a blog of answers this coming Wednesday...
So, tell me, what is love...really?